When The Bee Sting Twice

She’s a total stranger. I only know her by her nickname. She may as well be a he and I wouldn’t have known, but we did striked a good conversation – using just emails. Sometimes I do like emails over chat due to the lack of real-time pressure that chatting may impose. I really can take my time and think a bit more before pressing that “Send” button.

She had a sleeping problem, migraine, and changed of character. When a jolly and chirpy girl suddenly become a quiet person, you know something is amissed.

She knew her boyfriend had another girl. She even called that other girl to know the truth. Yeah, truth hurts, but she had made scrifices before. In her previous relationship, she had a similar “third person” problem and that time, she was strong enough to let them go and she moved on, alone.

That experienced left a scar in her and she don’t want to go through that experience again. But sometimes, life made a revision test. Same lesson with same curriculum being taught, only by a different teacher. A dejavu while being wide awake. Should she make the same decision like she did before – leaving them without a fight and move on alone? She don’t have the same strength anymore. She loved him dearly.

Is this a second chance that life thrown to a person to teach that person, “Hey, you made a wrong decision last time. I give you another chance now – same scenario, similar issue. Make a right decision now. Don’t screw up again, will’ya”? Or she may only have a continuous bad luck in her relationship? Or is it the same old cliché, “All men are the same….”?

Yeah, all men are the same. Don’t learn anything, move on and be a lesbian. Or be a bi like that friend of mine... Haha…

In our messages, we wrote about going with the flow. We wrote about life issues. We wrote about destiny. We wrote about love and relationship. We wrote about thing that we can or cannot change. We wrote about fear. We wrote about anything and everything...

She will have to make that hard decision one day. It may be the same decision she made in her previous relationship, or she may decide differently and give this one a fight. Or she may change him or she may change herself. Or it may be something completely different. I do not know what will happen to her. Her history is still in the making and I’m just watching from the sideline, eating karipap and drinking Kickapoo. When the bee sting twice at the same spot, maybe it is time to ask the question, “Why?”

Whatever her decision will be, it need to be done while she is at calm with herself and have the strength to face the circumstances. In real life, there is no one single answer to all problems, but with calmness and strength, there will always a good answer lurking somewhere beneath.


~ Ri Stranger