If You Don't Like The Answer, Change The Question

For many years, I used to say to my strangers, "If you think you can't accept the answer, don't ask the question." But first, let me explain who I meant by "my strangers". Those are the people who read my blogs between 2006 and 2010 and decided to meet up face-to-face to tell me their stories so that I can blog 'em. Those are strangers that mostly I met once and spent hours later blogging about 'em. Strangers who wanted their stories told.

Secondly, lemme explain my quote, "If you think you can't accept the answer, don't ask the question." Most of those strangers decided to meet me because they got suspicious of someone close to them. Boyfriend, fiancee, husband, "just friend" etc. Suspicions create questions. Questions got answered in the head somehow. Usually, those questions got answered during one of those episode of sleepless nights when your brain cells were having a deep conversation with each other. 

One brain cell talking to another brain cell while you are just a listener, and suddenly it's already morning, leaving you cursing to yourself for not sleeping and trying to figure out how to go on with the day walking like a zombie.

That was then. That's when I argued, if you already have the answers, why bother asking the question? So you think you need confirmations? Closure? For what? You have those need to confront you scary reality? C'mon... Please, do ask the question IF you can accept the answer and won't be broken or hurt by it. Otherwise, you better don't.

But now, it's 2015. Heck, I changed, ok? Now I'd say, "If you don't like the answer, change the question." Actually, it's a different face of the same coin. So instead of, "Do you have an affair with that girl?", you will or should ask, "Can you take care of the kids this weekend?"

Errrr.... If that's not suitable, change to another questions, will'ya? You know what I meant....

~ Ri Stranger